This is a guest post by Anna Fox who writes at Not Your Mama’s Bible Study. (From Peacefuwife- Thanks for the great post, Anna!)
When does a man go from what he is to what he isn’t in the mind of a woman?
Gary Thomas asked the question in the final Sacred Marriage DVD session. And I’ve seen those defeated men. Men who have faced going home where they didn’t measure up and decided to work a little overtime instead, pick up another hobby instead, stop for drinks with friends instead, accept the advances of a woman who praised him instead, done anything instead of going home.
Wasn’t it my own husband, so slow to anger, who finally threw up his hands and said, “I just want you to be happy!” And he didn’t mean for me to just laugh more, or smile all the time, or fake it. He meant for me to just take him for who he is. Be content. Consider what I have. Stop talking about what I don’t have.
I gotta’ admit, he stopped me in my tracks. I had this mile long list of things I wanted from him. I was ashamed. All he was asking was for me to be happy. It wasn’t dinner on the table when he walked in the door, or a cleaner house, or a better figure, or more sex, or any of the things I pushed myself to do. It was a way he wanted to see me live. I started that night with Proverbs. I read the whole book and marked every verse that talked about being happy. I had heard once, that another way to say “Blessed is” was “Happy is.” Proverbs has a lot of “Happy is” verses. I started memorizing them. I practiced.
Things started changing. I found that giving thanks for what IS, prohibits me from desiring what ISN’T. I went to bed one night and realized, God had changed me, was changing me. He had produced patience, where there had been impatience; peace where there had been fear; gentleness, where there had been ugliness; and self-control where there had been rage.
Suddenly I could appreciate what my husband IS. And he IS so much, I couldn’t care less about what he IS NOT.
Here is a post about discontentment for those who are interested – our true contentment is only found in Christ!
Here is a post about contentment