Peacefulwife VIDEOS



What Causes a Woman to Become Controlling? 11 minutes

Jesus Is the Love of My Life Now!  How to Make Him Lord (7 minutes)

My Story (13 minutes) – before and after

My Husband Doesn’t Deserve MY Respect! (6 minutes)

How to Apologize for Disrespecting and Controlling Your Husband (7.5 minutes)

Responding to Our Husbands’ Constructive Criticism (5 minutes)

Some Reasons I was Prideful as a Wife for 15 years (5 minutes)

Advanced Self Control (5 minutes)

Nonverbal Disrespect is IMPORTANT! (7 minutes)

A Wife’s Biblical Submission (12 minutes)

The Gift of Modesty (14 minutes)

My Husband Is Not a Good Spiritual Leader (10 minutes)

My Level of Respect for My Husband Has Nothing to Do with Him (9 minutes)

Marriage is Not a Group Grade (8 minutes)

Withholding Sex in Marriage (5 minutes)

Stop Pursuing Him in the Wrong Ways  (13 minutes)

“My Husband Watches TV Too Much”  (7 minutes)

Making Big Decisions Together in Marriage (10 minutes)

For ALL of my Youtube videos – check out my youtube channel  “April Cassidy

65 Comments on “Peacefulwife VIDEOS”

  1. lynettewicks
    May 15, 2013 at 8:29 am #

    Thank you for your You tube videos they have helped me a lot to understand what I need to do in my marriage. Your videos really opened my eyes & heart. Keep up the good work. God Bless


  2. bekkisayler
    July 7, 2013 at 8:10 pm #

    My husband introduced your blog the other day and I cannot thank you enough for your transparency in your writing and during your videos. I see so much of my self as I read and listen and watch. I have always believed I was respectful and a wonderful wife… The Lord is using you to reveal how far off the mark I truly am.
    Thank you for being obedient to God and your husband by sharing your journey…


    • peacefulwife
      July 7, 2013 at 9:28 pm #

      I am honored to meet you! 🙂

      I, too, thought I was an AWESOME Christian wife all those years – and was pretty shocked to find out how much work was needed in my heart.

      You are very welcome. I pray that God might use my story to make your journey into being a godly wife a smoother one. I am always glad to hear from you! 🙂

      Much love,


  3. Heather Davis
    August 17, 2013 at 6:34 pm #

    I love your videos! I wish you would do more of them! Or maybe do podcasts that we can listen to online! Thanks!


    • peacefulwife
      August 17, 2013 at 11:15 pm #


      I have done a few podcasts. And I have done about 50 videos. You can find all of that at my Youtube channel, “April Cassidy.” 🙂
      I do hope to do some more! Thanks for the encouragement!


  4. Joanna
    October 4, 2013 at 2:33 pm #

    Hello April,
    I was introduced to your blog by a friend at church a few months ago and I have been truly blessed by it! I am currently on a unique path that the Lord has placed me on, and your blogs and videos about what it means to be a godly, submissive wife have been a wealth of information for me. When ever I am struggling spiritually, I find truth, comfort, and guidance by reading about your experiences and what the Lord has taught you. I sincerely believe the Holy Spirit has given you wisdom to share with other women. Thank you so much for your discipleship! -God Bless You.


    • peacefulwife
      October 4, 2013 at 3:03 pm #


      It is my deepest prayer that God might use me to share His wisdom, design, love and truth with women. Thank you for being an answer to that prayer! 🙂


  5. margo whiteley
    November 4, 2013 at 6:11 pm #

    i have a question, i have a healthy friendship with my relatives but my husband thinks that i dont and that he feels i need to stop hanging out with mom, dad and all other siblings and at the right time Lord willing in the future that maybe we can spend time with them, but he wants me to deny spending any more time with them and cleave to husband. do you think that this could be something God is asking? i am having a hard tim believing that this is from God, but even if its not, do i submit anyway? i know i submit if he is wrong but not if it causes me to sin right? please help me, i have been praying about this a lot.


    • peacefulwife
      November 4, 2013 at 9:54 pm #


      It is wonderful to meet you!

      What issues does your husband have with your family? Is it possible that you are placing them above him in importance in your life?

      I would share your heart with him that you want to see your family at least once a month or something – but if he is insistent, it could be wise to honor his decision – particularly if he feels you give more allegiance and respect to them and allow them to influence your decisions and thinking more than you allow him to influence you.

      How is your marriage going in general?

      How long have you been married?

      How often are you spending time with your family?

      Does your husband feel disrespected by them or by you?

      What is his relationship with his family?

      What was his parents’ marriage like?

      What was your parents’ marriage like?


  6. margo whiteley
    November 5, 2013 at 12:55 pm #

    here is brief discription of my mom that my husband can agree with: She Loves the Lord, she has a strong walk with Jesus, a lot of faith, i have seen God use her to claim in Jesus name healings on people, So i know Gods favor is on her. My husband feels though that even though she is all that i stated above that they are materialistic and when i get back from hanging out with them that i act more that way for a few days, he also feels i come back with an attitude, which i dont see how it comes from my mom, i know its because he doesnt like me hanging out with her in the first place. He also thinks that she seperate us, that she is a stumbling block to him, this has more to do with my mom than anyone else, but he has takin it to the degree of everyone in family lets take a break, and whenever Gods says to talk with them again we will but until then cut all ties with brothers, mother, and dad. He has a great relationship with his mom, she is a widow for 7 years or longer, so he feels that he needs to take care of her because the word says to provide for the widows esp if they are in the family that the family members are the ones most obligated, so he has taken up that role, his mother is however possibly going to be engaged soon, so he agrees that if i have to cut all ties with my fam that he will do the same if i need him to. honestly i love his family but i have sensed that he hasnt loved mine to the extent i have loves his. he says he is doing this for my best interest and he thinks this is what God has made clear and what i have noticed as of late that he really has been growing in maturity, but for a while before as of late, he seemed to be falling off the path a lot. so it throws me through a loop. i only visit her once every two months, even less than that because he doesnt want me to, and if its more that , than its usually just an hour lunch i take on break at work, to visit her. but thats it. i dont run to her with my problems, I USED to a year and a half ago. but she would always tell me to go work it out with him. and gave great Godly advice, she wouldnt speak negative of him. He has always acted like this ever sense we got married, but before marriage he had no problem whatsoever with anyone in my family


    • peacefulwife
      November 5, 2013 at 7:22 pm #

      I would really hate to see you not have contact with your family. I would hope that believers could work these situations out.

      But – if your husband feels strongly, you can say, “I want to keep seeing my family. I love them. They are my family and always will be. I don’t want to have regrets if something should happen to them. But I love you and trust God to lead me through you. If you really believe this is necessary for a time, I will honor your request. But it will make me feel very sad.”

      God may change his heart. I would hope – within a few months?

      You can check out the post “Spiritual Authority” There is a portion of the notes from my class that talk about making an appeal to someone in spiritual authority over you.


  7. margo whiteley
    November 5, 2013 at 1:03 pm #

    our marriage is going well except for this, this is the whole reason we get in fights, when i talk to my mom or my brother, my brother has disrespected him before and my husband mentioned that he felt disrespected by my mom when he wouldnt listen to his advice on false prophets because she would listen to Joel Osteen, who we both feel is false prophet, thats the only instant that he has regarded that he felt disrespected by her, he had both mother and father growing up, they both believe/believed in Jesus and my parents split when i was4 and mom remarried wheni was 10 and lived with mom and step dad in my young teens up until 18. they are christian also, my dad is islamic and husband seems to like my dad the most, because my dad doesnt try to visit all the time and probably because he is receptive to hearing the word of God.


    • peacefulwife
      November 5, 2013 at 7:24 pm #


      Has your brother apologized?

      I cannot agree with Joel Osteen either. There is certainly false teaching in his preaching.

      So there were a few incidents when your mother or brother disrespected your husband – and they haven’t apologized? Your husband is still upset?


      • Margo Whiteley
        November 6, 2013 at 12:47 pm #

        they havent , because he hasnt addressed them , but i know that my brother wont even let himself be around them for them to adress the issue, i should tell my mom that he felt disrespected and maybe she can call him to say she is sorry, right now im fasting from food, honestly its hard. its been a few years sense i fasted, but trying to let God fight this battle for me through this sacrifice. please pray that God would bring peace in our families and let Gods will be done, i know God works out even evil intent for the good of those who love him and that God would give my husband pure heart and intentions if anything is not pure. thank you for your guidance! great to meet you! i like listening to how God reveals his word through you! God Bless sister!


        • peacefulwife
          November 6, 2013 at 6:27 pm #


          I love that you are fasting and praying and seeking God and His will and glory above all. That is the perfect place to be. I pray for your husband and family to have wisdom and for God to use all of this mess for something ultimately beautiful and good in His eyes.

          Much love to you! Please let me know how you are doing, 🙂


  8. margo whiteley
    November 5, 2013 at 1:12 pm #



    • peacefulwife
      November 5, 2013 at 7:25 pm #


      I pray that God might speak through me. Anything I get on my own is worthless. Only He has wisdom that is of real value.


  9. Sharon
    November 6, 2013 at 7:47 pm #

    Gods word is true and I have been praying day and night for over three years for God to heal my marriage. My husband and I have been married going on twenty fore years, my husband was a man of God when we were married, and I believe he thinks he still is, however he is so deceived and has left me for a girl who is twenty years younger then we are her name is T and she says she is a christen she is very deceiving and darning this time my husband has left me moved in with her three times each time dh has come back to me asking for forgiveness and has told me that the Lord spoke to his heart and told him to come home, each time he came home she threatened to kill herself, made up storeys about being in a car wreck, said she was dieing would send messages that God wanted him to be with and not me his wife. When my husband would tell her that he loved me and that he wanted to be with me she would text and say he was lying to himself and that he didn’t love me that he loved her she would follows us in our car she drove by our house day and night, and then he would leave again. God is so good that he has watched over my heart and I forgive her its almost like she bully’s dh into seeing her and leaving she has plenty of money so she is constantly doing something for Aaron now she has gotten him a apartment and she stays there with him even though she has her own house. When hes with her he doesn’t talk to me, I don’t want anything bad to happen to her I just want God to remove her from our lives and bring my husband home for good, our children are grown and on there own and thy and our grand children are upset. Please pray for her removal and the return of my husband. I love dh and I believe in the covenant of marriage. I forgive my husband and I believe God made us one it would so bless me if you would take a moment and pray, thank you for your time I am very grateful that you read my letter love your sister in the Lord. Please stand with me in prayer for Restoration of my marriage and the removal of this woman once and for all please know that with Gods grace I don’t hate her and I pray for her as well I just want her and all of her tricks removed from our lives.


    • peacefulwife
      November 8, 2013 at 9:30 am #


      Of course I will pray with you – for your husband, this woman and for yourself. I pray for God’s glory in your marriage covenant and for His glory in this woman’s life, that she may live a life that pleases and honors God and find a love for herself that is appropriate and right, not adultery.

      I can add you to my prayer team’s prayer list if you would like. 🙂


    • margo whiteley
      November 8, 2013 at 12:54 pm #

      Sharon, i am praying that God restores your marriage and open your husbands eyes to the precious women of God you are! you are not being decieved by the devils tactics which i praise God for, i can see Jesus through your actions, i dont know if you have read the book of Hosea in the bible but if you havent read it lately i know that it would move your heart because Hosea the prophet went through something very similar to you, and God sees your crys and hears your prayers and he is blessing you abundantly in the Kingdom of heaven because of your rich faith in God and for your trust in him when all this is going on in your life. im praying for you! and i am so moved by this, God is using you so powerfully in the situation. James 5:16 NLT Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results!!!!! GOD is taking care of the enemy is trying to kill steal and destroy your marriage. 1 peter 5:6-10 Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time:Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
      Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world. But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.Isaiah 41:10 Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
      I love you sister and im praying for you!


  10. margo whiteley
    November 8, 2013 at 9:18 am #

    Thank you soo much for your prayers! I Praise God for meeting you! your such a blessing! I love you and thank you and im praying for you and your family, have a BLESSED day!


  11. Raquel
    November 22, 2013 at 12:45 am #

    God bless… Hey the Lord is amazing, I was praying to the Lord , to teach me how to treat my husband. Truly my prayers are being answer just by reading and watching your video. Praise the lord ¡¡


    • peacefulwife
      November 22, 2013 at 6:30 am #


      I’m so glad to meet you!

      These are the things I WISH I had known 19 years ago. 🙂 I’m so glad it was an answer to prayer for you. What a blessing! Thanks for letting me know!


  12. Mandy
    January 3, 2014 at 1:38 pm #

    Thank you so much for this! You have no idea how much I need this God is using you in such a powerful way! I am so thankful God helped me find this. I honestly believe my marriage that has been a train wreak for the past 2 years has just made a turn for the better! Just from reading and listening to what The Lord is saying thou you! Thank you for helping me see what I need to do and what I need to change to make my marriage work. How to stop blaming my husband and stop trying to change him. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! Thank you.


    • peacefulwife
      January 3, 2014 at 3:49 pm #


      What an answer to my prayers!! Thank you for letting me know!!

      May God richly bless your walk with Him and your marriage for His glory!


  13. The Vintage Couple
    January 28, 2014 at 11:13 pm #

    I love your blog. I am a newly married Christian homemaker in my mid-twenties. I can see myself really benefiting from your blog. I really enjoyed your blog post on modesty especially.



    • peacefulwife
      January 29, 2014 at 6:49 am #

      You are most welcome! Congratulations on your marriage! 🙂

      I can’t wait to get to know you better and to see all that God has in store for you. Thank you for sharing.


  14. tiffany
    May 18, 2014 at 1:00 pm #

    Im getting married in a month and i actually prayed to Father last night for this type if material. And im so over joyed of how much you and your husband have here. If you have any live classes please email me thanks Tiffany Ellis


    • peacefulwife
      May 18, 2014 at 1:43 pm #

      Congratulations on your upcoming marriage! I pray for God to open your heart and your eyes so you can absorb all that you can about His design for you as a godly woman and wife and that you might be well prepared to be a great blessing to your husband and to the kingdom of Christ for His glory. :). You are welcome here!


  15. Natalie
    May 22, 2014 at 2:32 am #

    So how do I deal with a husband who I’ve discovered has cheated on me countless, really since the beginning of our marriage (only been married a few yrs). I gave him a chance w/ conditions that he goes to spiritual counsel individually & then the both of us together as a couple + rules of engagement when interacting on social media & other women; he made commitments to me & have broken all of countless of times (time after time after time after time) even within a week to two weeks time frame after the infidelity & at least 3-4 additional times after w/ in a 3 month period. What must I do then…..I’m giving up! I am in so much pain; I feel like I’m dying 😦


    • peacefulwife
      May 22, 2014 at 6:08 am #


      Oh no! 😦 What an unbelievably difficult and painful situation. If a husband continues to be unrepentant, there are times when you may not be able to receive him back. 😦 Certainly not until he spent many months rebuilding trust and proving himself transparent, repentant and changed.

      What does your counselor say?

      Praying for you my precious sister!


      • Natalie
        June 4, 2014 at 2:35 pm #

        I have an appointment next month on the 18th…..I’ll have to wait until then. Recently, we had a big argument & we separated/he moved out. I asked him to make a decision as a man whether he wanted to stay or go, because his actions were hurting me. He gave me back his wedding ring on the key ring he gave me back w/ the house key. I still wear my ring, because I want to keep this as private as possible…esp. at work + I’m still married, although, we are separated. If &/or when the divorce happens & is final I’ll take it off. But, he’s not wearing his, I guess he’s available…..not sure. It was a bitter sweet moment…..more bitter than sweet, though. It been stressful at time & ok at others. Still a bit down, but it could be worst. I’m sure my situation is no worst than anyone else’s….plus, ppl are going through worst situations. Tons of women have gone through this type of marriage…..divorce happens everyday, right? Guess, that’s where it’s headed….didn’t imagine I would be here, but I guess no one does. Now, my main objectives are to try to get some understanding from God on how to move forward & build strength & a stronger foundation w/ Jesus, ensure that this doesn’t affect my job & it is kept private, & how to become a stronger parent.


        • peacefulwife
          June 4, 2014 at 10:45 pm #

          Oh no!!! I am so sorry! He I wish I could hug your neck!

          I hope to get to respond more tomorrow. But I am praying for you both!!


        • peacefulwife
          June 5, 2014 at 8:41 am #

          So, I am assuming that means that he chose to remain unfaithful? 😦


          I am SO SO SO SO SO sorry for the pain you are going through. How I wish I could wave a magic wand and make everything right. I wish no one had to experience this level of emotional and spiritual devastation.

          I am praying for your walk with Christ – that not one drop of pain and not one tear might be wasted – but that this might draw you to Him in a new, fresh way and that you might cling to Him as the Greatest Treasure there is. How I pray that His Spirit might open your husband’s eyes and bring him to real repentance and to salvation and a close walk with Christ Jesus.

          There are quite a few men and women who read my blog who are in similar situations. You can find some of their stories on the comments yesterday.

          You may also be interested in A Peaceful Separated Wife. And A Separated Wife Finally Begins to Experience the Peace of God in Her Life!

          Much love to you my precious sister!


  16. Dax
    August 3, 2014 at 5:57 pm #

    Okay this has nothing to do with the video, but is saw your description about your journey and I had to comment. There is a difference between being submissive and letting things go every once in a while. It is not okay to be submissive. Marriage requires compromise not for the wife to be submissive. A wife is not to just do as they are told. I am sorry if I coming off in the wrong way. Im a bit of a feminist. I believe God would not want women to just always do as they are told by their husbands. They should what they think is right what they know God would do in a situation and act accordingly. If that isn’t what you meant by submissive I would suggest using a different word.


    • peacefulwife
      August 3, 2014 at 7:35 pm #


      It’s great to meet you. 🙂

      I use the word “submission” because that is what God commands wives to do in Ephesians 5:22-33, Colossians 3:18 and Titus 2:3-5.

      Our culture has twisted the word “submission” into “slavery.” That is not what the word means. To see a post about what God means for wives to do, please check out the post about “biblical submission” at the top of my home page.

      All of us in our culture today have been steeped in feminist ideas since we were young children. But God’s Word is more important than the thoughts of people. And His Word carries the ultimate authority, not feminism.

      I invite you to check out that post.

      May God richly bless your walk with Christ and your marriage.


  17. Meghan
    August 31, 2014 at 6:43 pm #

    You were me. My husband showed me your site and I am so thankful. Your insights are so needed to me and I appreciate your being candid. May God bless you as He uses you.


    • Peacefulwife
      August 31, 2014 at 10:29 pm #


      Woohoo!!! This makes my day! What an incredible answer to my prayers that God is using my story in some way to bless you, your marriage and your walk with Christ! I can’t wait to see all that god has in store for you on this journey!!!!!


  18. Kenny Joan Turner
    January 27, 2015 at 2:12 am #


    I would like to know if you have anything on infedelity? I’m going through this problem.
    Thank you.
    Kenny Joan


  19. Lindy
    January 31, 2015 at 12:48 am #

    I came across your YouTube videos about 2 weeks ago. My husband and I have been married for 9 months but have been together for 3 years. Everything that you say you used to do in your video “my story” is what I have been doing since we got engaged and even now. I blame him for everything that goes wrong in our marriage and always tell him if he doesn’t change then I want out.

    I’m in a very dark emotional state because it’s getting worse. I can’t tell if it’s because of the hormones (currently 15 weeks pregnant) but I doubt it. I’ve just never respected him because he is the opposite of what I’ve always considered a great husband (my dad). I compare him to my dad all the time and I tell what my dad would have done in whatever situation we would be facing at the time. Daily I’m left with so much guilt because of the way I treat him, I always tell him he needs to change and pray that he does but deep down I know that I’m the one who needs to change 1st. But seems so impossible, all my life I’ve been controlling and all my life I’ve dreamt about marrying a strong man who could lead me. I’m the last one of 5 kids but I’m the one who wants to control everything, it’s all subconscious.

    I’ve lost hope but this is not how I want things to be. I am exactly what you describe as your old self.
    I really don’t want to lose my husband, I love him but I feel as though he is not a good husband. He doesn’t lead or guide the family, he doesn’t protect (the way I want him to). I know I am terrible but how do I delete in my mind everything I’ve been taught all my life and everything I know about what a godly husband should be? I know in my heart that I have made my dad an idol to me and it is wrong, but there’s is no button to press and just erase what I thought a godly husband should be.

    I went online and tried to order “The surrendered wife” there are different versions, which one is the one that you read that opened your eyes? I thought it’s the one written “the respect he desperately needs” but I just want to be sure.



    • Peacefulwife
      January 31, 2015 at 10:42 pm #

      I hope to get to respond tomorrow. I am prayI for you! Don’t give up hope!!


    • Peacefulwife
      February 1, 2015 at 7:52 am #

      I have TONS of posts here that I believe will help you. And, those pregnancy hormones definitely make respect a lot more difficult. I totally understand that. But, if you are willing to seek God with all your heart and allow Him to work in your life – you can become the woman He wants you to be even while you are pregnant. 🙂

      The Surrendered Wife that I read was the first one. But do keep in mind that it is not written from a biblical perspective, so there are a number of things you will have to filter out and not keep.

      Please read the posts at the top of my home page about disrespect and respect.

      How is your relationship with Christ?

      You can check out my blog, please search the following:

      – husband idol
      – lead
      – leader
      – superman
      – why do I have to change first?
      – ungodly woman
      – godly femininity
      – stages of this journey
      – respecting your husband
      – expectations
      – discontentment
      – control
      – contentment

      I’m right here if you need to talk more!

      Much love!


      • Peacefulwife
        February 1, 2015 at 7:53 am #

        PLEASE do consider apologizing to your husband for talking about wanting out.

        You can search my home page for “apologizing stories” for inspiration.

        Praying for you both!


        • Lindy
          February 1, 2015 at 3:45 pm #

          Thank you for your reply.
          To answer your question, my relationship with Christ is currently non-existant. I hardly read the word or pray. I just get tired of apologising, starting over then falling again. It’s as if I’m toying with God.

          I have apologised countless times to my husband but somehow repeat those things again. So I’m thinking when i apologise to him, in his heart he probably knows I’ll do it again, so I become afraid to even apologise 1 more time. I will search the topics you suggested.

          But no more wallowing in self pity. I need to pursue a relationship with Christ again.

          Thank you, you are an inspiration to us young wives.


          • Peacefulwife
            February 2, 2015 at 6:40 am #


            If you are ready to be serious with Christ, seek Him with all your heart! You have no power or strength to be a godly wife without God’s power and His Spirit flooding your soul. I promise you that is the only way I can be a godly wife at all. In my own strength, all I can do is mess up. But when God’s Spirit is in me, all I can do is bring glory to HIm. It is ALL about Him.

            If you have apologized before but kept messing up, you may consider not apologizing with words, but just going to God and begging Him to change you. I know that as you focus on pursuing Christ with all your heart and laying all of yourself bare before Him and allow Him to radically change your heart, mind, and soul, He can and will give you the power to become the wife He desires you to be.

            Much love to you!


      • Lindy
        February 13, 2015 at 9:40 am #

        Dear April

        I am happy to say that I have started working on my relationship with Jesus, I confessed my sins and asked for forgiveness. I still have the lingering fear of failing again but I talk to God about that. I see how I was blinded by pride and the desire to get love and happiness more than the desire to love my husband and God.

        My husband is a very wonderful man, never judges me or says anything hurtful. He is very loving, problem is that I was just focusing on all his shortcomings and mistakes that I failed to remember how wonderful he is on a daily basis.

        I have started reading the word of God and praying about this, submitting to God and allowing him to do the work in me. I am already starting to see the positive effect this has on my husband as I start to respect him, and choose my words before I speak. I am also reading Love & Respect.

        It was not a coincidence that I landed on your blog and I pray that God will continue to bless you for the work you are doing.

        Who know, one day I will be Peacefulwife South Africa.

        God bless


        • Peacefulwife
          February 13, 2015 at 4:53 pm #


          WOW! This brings me tears of happy joy!!!! I would love for you to be Peacefulwife South Africa! I am thrilled about what God is doing in your life and your willingness to yield to Him and listen to Him. I hope you will stay in touch and let me know how you are doing. I am so thankful to hear from you and to get to meet you, my sweet sister!

          PRAISE GOD! I have to give Him all the thanks and glory!!!!!!!


  20. ochokandelikas
    February 21, 2015 at 11:31 am #

    You think you’re perfect, huh?


  21. ochokandelikas
    February 21, 2015 at 11:45 am #

    What do you do when your husband raises his voice at you? And tells you what you’re doing wrong. Or are you so perfect you never do anything wrong?


    • Peacefulwife
      February 21, 2015 at 12:28 pm #


      My husband doesn’t raise his voice. He is a very calm, patient man.

      There are times he brings things to my attention that he believes I need to correct. But he does it in a very respectful way and he doesn’t raise his voice.


  22. submissive
    February 28, 2015 at 5:57 pm #

    Hi April I have a question. What do u you think about christians using medication? Do you have a post on this?


    • Peacefulwife
      March 1, 2015 at 7:28 am #


      I am a pharmacist, so I do have thoughts on this issue. I haven’t written a specific post. What kinds of medication are you talking about? 🙂


      • submissive
        March 1, 2015 at 1:18 pm #

        Hi April any type of medicine. 🙂 I mean from what I learned the medications we take can do serious damage to our bodies. I used to several in my past. I mean do you believe in faith healing as a pharmist?


        • Peacefulwife
          March 1, 2015 at 2:07 pm #


          I am not aware of it being a sin for people to use medicine in God’s eyes. But yes, medicines can have side effects, so it is important to use wisdom about what to take and when. If there are lifestyle changes that can accomplish benefits instead, I would want to use those things first.

          Can God heal and do miracles? Yes! Does that mean we can never use medications? I don’t believe so.

          Much love!


          • submissive
            March 1, 2015 at 5:44 pm #

            Hi. Will you be doing a post on this anytime soon? The thing which bothers me is about medicines and the things that are put in them. Which causes side effects causing the person to,take more medicine doing more damage then Good. The bible says in Jerimiah 17:5Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the LORD…we know that God has things he wants us to follow. I’m not trying to debate it’s just with medications we really have to check and see if what we are doing pleases God. Taking medications is a dorm of witchcraft and we must be careful of the things that are being put out there for people to agree with. I say this in nothing but love and I just wanted to offer some help to you the same way,you helped me regarding my marriage:)


            • Peacefulwife
              March 3, 2015 at 8:19 pm #


              Yes, sometimes medications do more damage than good. That can be possible. There are a lot of things that doctors don’t know and don’t understand. Medicine is constantly changing and things we used to think were very good medicines and treatments sometimes turn out to be the wrong thing to do.

              I think it is wise to carefully study about any medication before taking it and to pray about it and to look for lifestyle modifications, dietary changes, exercises, etc… that may be helpful before taking medicines.

              I talked with a brother who is a Bible scholar who has his PhD in New Testament and Greek and asked him about whether the kind of pharmacy we practice today would be considered “witchcraft” from that passage in Galatians. Here was his response:

              Yes, φαρμακεία, is the use/dispensing of drugs —but not really like the kind you dispense. —In the first century world that meant drugs for poisoning and drugs in magic/ power spells (incantations) . . . . You may know of the fungus recognized today as Amanita Muscaria. It was a powerful hallucinatory poison used all across the ancient world at the time of Christ —that’s φαρμακεία. Others were Atropine, Bufotenin, etc. That’s what that is talking about. Someone dispensing drugs used in both pagan religious ceremonies (apprehending a god in a drug-induced ecstasy) and poisonings. At the time of the writing of the New Testament, pharmakos “pharmacist” was an enchanter —a wizard. . . But remember, at that time, the entire Roman empire was crawling with religious charlatans and the loons (drug maddened lunatics) who followed them (Acts 14). Do you recall how they decided that Barnabas was the Greek god Zeus and that Paul was Hermes. Paul & Barnabas could barely keep themselves from being worshiped. Also, Paul and Barnabas were mistaken for gods by a pagan crowd in Lystra. . . . . Revelation 18:23. . . . for your merchants were the great ones of the earth, and all nations were deceived by your magic spells (pharmakeia) φαρμακείᾳ.

              . . . But, obviously, that has nothing to do with the good work you do as a pharmacist dispensing –say– a β1 receptor antagonist like Atenolol to get someone’s blood pressure down. Also, you know from the context, that it is talking about drugs used to harm/ or in pagan rituals because the other words are envy; drunkenness; orgies, and the like. So it is not to just “use drugs” it is the use of drugs/ medicines in sorcery, witchcraft, . . . . —I guess someone could steal a doctor’s prescription pad, fill it out for a powerful drug, have you fill the prescription, and then use that to harm someone. You would be in that “chain-of-pain” because you filled the prescription BUT that can happen with any purchase. —-That’s really stretching things.


              Much love to you! 🙂


  23. submissive
    March 6, 2015 at 3:22 am #

    With all due respect, we are not going to be judge by what a “bible scholar”, but we will be judged by God’s word. You will not answer to me but to God. His word is clear and does not need a “scholar” to interpret His holy word. God means what he says. This is not a small matter April and I hope that you seek the Lord further in this area and many other areas that may be displeasing to God. Remember you are going to be held accountable for the information that you put out here on the Internet so I would make sure that the things I’m writing matches God’s word and not the words of a man who has a title PhD in front of His name. I would take God’s word more seriously than of a man who is flesh and blood like us. I tell you this in love. Pray about this matter and any other matter that you may have concerns about
    Take care…


    • Peacefulwife
      March 6, 2015 at 8:25 am #


      I will certainly prayerfully consider what you have shared. Since I don’t speak or read Greek – which is the language that the New Testament is written in – I do appreciate someone who does speak Greek explaining the meaning of a word to me if I am unsure of it’s exact meaning. As non Greek-speakers, we are all dependent on translators to correctly translate God’s words to us. The correct translation of the words matter greatly. I believe in the inerrancy of God’s Word in its original manuscripts. It is the original language that I want most to understand. I am very aware that I am accountable to God for what I am teaching – it is a humbling and heavy burden that I take extremely seriously – and I want more than anything to please Him with each word. Thank you for sharing your concerns.

      I don’t believe that Scripture teaches we can never ever use any medication or that we should never use a doctor. People did use doctors and medicine (apart from witchcraft) at that time. Jesus did not condemn the woman with the issue of blood for having seen doctors over the years. Luke was a doctor. Jesus didn’t condemn him for sinning anywhere in Scripture. I don’t see Scripture saying that being a doctor or using medicine is sin. The witchcraft/sorcery medicines were different. Those things are sin. If we are poisoning someone or getting high or using medicine to help us worship demons or idols – that is sin.

      I do think that we overuse medication in our Western culture, and sometimes our medications are not as safe as we think they are. Sometimes we do trust men more than God. That is not ok.

      I want to be extremely cautious not to decide for myself to label something as sin that God does not label “sin.” I think that is very dangerous, too.

      Honestly, I would like to leave pharmacy for a number of reasons and have been praying about that for years now. But I am waiting on God’s leadership about that. I would appreciate prayers for Greg and me to have God’s wisdom.

      With love,


  24. submissive
    March 6, 2015 at 9:47 am #

    Yes I will pray for you both:) yes I understand fluke was a physical, there are certain times when we use a doctor for certain circumstances. It’s just the medications and vaccinations they push on people is what I have an problem with. We as Christians must be careful about tall things. Nevertheless I Wil pray for you and Greg.


  25. sindew
    June 21, 2015 at 12:39 pm #

    where is my peaceful wife?


    • Peacefulwife
      June 21, 2015 at 9:00 pm #


      I’m so sorry that you are looking for a peaceful wife-to-be and haven’t found her yet. There are very few Christian women in most mainstream churches who understand this stuff in our culture today. It completely breaks my heart. There are pockets of women who do understand and who have had godly examples. But most women have been very tainted by our culture.

      I suggest praying for God to raise her up for you and for Him to continue to form you to be the man He desires you to be. There are not a lot of single women who understand respecting their husbands and biblical submission. Even those who think they do often are shocked at how difficult it is once they get married. But with God, this is not impossible.

      My husband had to wait for many years (about 17) after we were married before he had a peacefulwife. It was a very painful process for us both. But I am thankful that God opened my eyes and didn’t leave me in my sin.

      Much love to you in Christ, my brother!


  26. bo
    November 3, 2015 at 9:02 am #

    I find texting message on my husband phone from some women some month back in can forgive but don’t dort get it been marry to him for 28 yrs 3 daughter it’s hurt me so bad just the other nite he say to me he need some space I say what the fxxx


    • Peacefulwife
      November 3, 2015 at 9:48 am #


      I’m so very sorry for the pain you are experiencing. 😦 That would be very hurtful.

      Would you like to talk a bit about what is going on?

      Much love to you!



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